Hello frens. For those of you who know about my monthly goals for the month of June, I am proud to announce that I have finished them all. Yes, even my goal of going for a run at least 4 times this month!!!! That means that I am officially a rooner now. I even have Hoka shoes. I will continue rooning in July.
He's just like me fr <3
To celebrate getting my monthly goals done, I made eggplant parmesan!!! It was really good !!!! Here's the link to the recipe I used, for anyone interested: https://www.allrecipes.com/recipe/25321/eggplant-parmesan-ii/
So I wanted to share some lingering thoughts I have after having a long phone yap sesh with one of my homies who is like 10 years older than me. She's a girlboss and hella based, but I find it funny that our friendship lowkey doesn't pass the Bechdel test sometimes because our conversation topics tend to be about love and relationships. But I consider her to be an expert on these matters, so it is much better to talk to her about this stuff than it would be with some clueless woman in her early 20s. I will share some stuff I pondered about after yapping with her, but first here is a brief intermission to drop my monthly goals for July. Also lmao Canada Day is coming up, and I know it will be more lit this year than perhaps it has ever been before.
Snekcoatl's July Goals (I'm making them extra spicy and ambitious this month)
- Languages:
- Finish the workbook "Our Ojibwe Grammar" by Rick Gresczyk
- Move on to Lesson 9 of the Kidon Miinawaa Introductory Ojibwe online textbook after reviewing the relevant flashcards in my Anki deck
- 10 hours of practicing reading and writing in Hindi (the Linguin app has short stories and articles and Hindi, so I might practice with that)
- Rooning and other fitness related stuff:
- Go on at least 4 roons again
- At least 12 gym check-ins
- Get at least 400,000 steps of walking this month
- Try at least 3 at-home workouts from this youtube channel https://www.youtube.com/@fitbymik/posts?themeRefresh=1
- Reading
- Finish reading Roger Williams and the Creation of the American Soul: Church, State and the Birth of Civil Liberty by John M. Barry (it's really good so far. I love how the author talks about historical figures as if he knows them personally lmao)
- Finish reading the second book of the Masquerade trilogy, The Monster Baru Cormorant. (IT'S SOOOO GOOOD SO FAR EEEE I LOVE BARU CORMORANT AND ABDUMASI ABD THEY ARE MY FAVOURITE GIRL AND MY FAVOURITE BOY)
- Try to get like at least 1/4th of the way through at least one other book for research purposes
- Creative stuff
- edit the short story I finished writing recently
- write a poem inspired by Saint Francis of Assisi
- finish at least one lesson of an online asynchronous course on coloured pencil art that I'm taking
- Self-care stuff
- do the extended version of my skincare routine lmao
- do hair stuff and nail stuff. basically the girl maintenance stuff that I have been putting off for some time because I generally do not like being reminded that I have a corporeal form.
Okay, that should be enough to keep me busy. I'm going to revisit these on July 15th to see if they need to be adjusted because they are definitely ambitious but I am also unemployed lmao and I won't be in school again until October when I start my PhD.
Also, my birthday will be in July!!!!!! I might need to take my birthday off to relax a bit and not work towards these goals that day and maybe have a party with some frens.
Now it's time to tell you about the stuff I was pondering about.
Basically, my fren was talking about how concerning it is that some left-wing and liberal feminist dating advice written by women and for women actually sounds a lot like conservative stuff now that feminism was supposed to be fighting against in the first place. She was talking about posts that encourage women to find a m*n who provides for them. Not only a decent life but a luxurious one so she can be soft and feminine. And about finding a m@n who is obsessed with you and makes you his priority in life or something. Bruh? All I want is for him to show emotional intelligence.
This all seems very concerning and regressive to me and my fren for two reasons that we discussed. One is that the whole point of feminism is for women to not have to depend on men. A good man can be a nice add-on to an already fulfilling life, but that's all he should be. Another issue we have with the advice being given to women right now is that is reinforces rigid notions of gender. For example, it discourages women from being the pursuer or making the first move if they want to and it makes men feel like they should never expect or want the woman to make an effort. It's okay for a man to a babygirl!!!! or a princess!!! or a tradwife!!! It's 2025, after all. And don't even get me started on "a ReLaTiOnsHip ONLy wOrkS iF tHe MaN lOvEs tHe WoMaN mOrE tHaN sHe LoVEs HiM." Y'all are supposed to be mutual simps for each other. That is literally the whole point of being in a relationship. Stop being bitter and doompilled.
This brings me to the thesis of this post which is that I think society hates female desire and wants us to suppress it. Incels tell us to settle for people we are not even attracted to, and terfy radfems tell us to be with some simp who is obsessed with us and has a "provider" kink. Bro why don't you provide some good listening skills and some genuine interest in my hobbies? My point is that women are not trophies to be won. We have our own desires. But somehow it's always "find someone who will spoil you" and never "find someone who you like so much that you actually feel like spoiling them." Normalize women feeling violent carnal desire instead of expecting them to take a passive role in relationships.
Anyway, that's all for today. Maybe next time I'll tell you guys about the time I used to want to abolish the nuclear family until I became more pro-natalist and pro-family and explain the way my thinking changed over time lol.
Bye, frens!!
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